“Queer”, once used as a derogative expression, is more often used as an umbrella term for people who identify as LGBTQIA+. It is intentionally ambiguous, allowing flexibility for those who identify outside of cishet normativity. I call myself queer as this allows me to maintain flexibility in my gender and sexual identities without telling people my whole divergent story.
My being Autistic, ADHD and Disabled is also queer, it doesn’t necessarily affect my gender or sexuality but it does inform the way in which I live a queer existence. I do not lead a typical life (whatever that may look like) I communicate, dress, express myself and exist in a way that makes sense to my individual bodymind.
My brain will not allow for normativity, it will not follow or bow down to it and neither do my ideas on gender, sex and love. I didn’t buy into neuro-normativity and I’m certainly not buying into cis or hetero-normativity and its way passed me being able to hide or reduce myself in that way.
I’m here, I neuroqueer and I’d really like to have a nap now.
2 thoughts on “Disabled and queer – reclaiming the words we live by”
Hi, I like the nomenclature of Neuroqueer! I am 55 and was not diagnosed as having ADHD until I was over 50 and there are so many things that have been a part of my life that, had I been born in this time, would have had me being diagnosed as Autistic as well. I have not had a formal round of testing for that, however, I am self diagnosed as such, because really, the signs are all there. When I was 3, I knew that I was supposed to be a boy, but my abusive mother beat that out of me. Having lived over 50 years of my life as a female, my personal feeling and choice is that I am ok with being female, but I am definitely a masculine of center lesbian with a mother’s heart. So, as of today, I am adopting Disabled Neuroqueer as the best possible label. Thanks 🙂
I’m glad we were able to connect you to a word which makes more sense for you.